“Spark of Joy”

It’s crazy how accurate Marie Kondo is with a simply question- “Does it spark joy?”

Her theory is that if you hold an item and it sparks joy within you, it is worth keeping or buying.  It is such a simple concept yet it works wonders.  Usually, I’m on the fence about things I end up buying, and then I have a lukewarm opinion of it and it’s not the first thing I’m excited to wear when it comes time to decide on an outfit, casual or semi-formal.

The other day, my friend and I went on a spontaneous garage sale spree all over her town, and within an hour, I really wasn’t planning on buying anything, I had bought a beautiful bracelet that a lady wanted to get rid of along with her other jewelry- she said she used to design jewelry and needed it out of the house… I was sort of on the fence, but I held it in my hand and it felt like me.  So I handed over only THREE BUCKS.  And now I’m really in love with it.  Here are the reasons why:

  1.  It’s a burgundy red, one of my favorite colors
  2. It’s set in stones all around, which reminds me of magical powers I used to conjure in my childhood days when I pressed on them
  3. There are 5 of them set evenly around my bracelet, and 5 is my lucky number.  Mostly because in terms of math, it’s not as easy to solve as 10, but not as crazy difficult as a number like, multiples of 7 or 8.  It’s just right.
  4. It doesn’t feel cheap has inset designs that swirl and remind me of something from Queen Elizabeth’s time.
  5. Its springy design makes it easy to put on, unlike other clasps that take me forever
  6. The thick width of it reminds me of Wonder Woman, and I feel like it is giving me energy for my goals I want to achieve.

Here’s to smarter shopping as I venture into adulthood 🙂  Cheers

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Notes on “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” – Marie Kondo

  • Tidy/organize all at once, INTENSELY and COMPLETELY, not bit by bit
  • Tidying is just a tool, not the final destination (21)
  • Two-Part Question for Criteria:
    • Are you keeping the item?
    • If yes, where are you placing it?
  • Sort by category, not by location
    • Avoid duplicates, narrow down volume
      • “Can’t put it back” types + “Can’t discard” types
  • Make tidying into “special event” day

Obtaining HAPPINESS

  1.  Picture the lifestyle you want.  Ex:  “yoga?  why? for more relaxation? to lose weight? are you sure?”  <– repeat 3 x for each item
  2. Examining what you own
    • Selection Criterion:
      • Cease being functional
      • Out of date – fashion, past event
    • Choose what you want to keep, not what you want to get rid of.  Look more closely at what is there (41)
      • “Does this spark joy?”
      • Touch each item to see how your mind and body reacts
  3. One category at a time
    • Make subcategories of tops, bottoms, socks, etc.
    • Things can be stored out of sight
  4. Do not start with Mementos or anything of memory first
    • Clothes, books, papers, komono (miscellany), mementos <– ORDER
      1. Functional value
      2. Informational value
      3. Emotional value
  5. Don’t let family see
    1. The urge to point out someone else’s failure to tidy is usually a sign that you are neglecting to take care of your own space
  6. What you don’t need, your family doesn’t need either
  7. Tidying is a dialogue with one’s self
    • Form of meditation
    • Quiet space to clean, background noise should be ambient or environmental music with no lyrics or well-defined melodies
    • Early morning is the best time- fresh air, sharp power of discernment
  8. What to do when you can’t throw something away
    1. Human judgment:
      1. Intuitive
      2. Rational “I might need it later” / “It’s a waste to get rid of it”
    2. To truly cherish things that are important to you, you must first discard those that have outlived their purpose
      1. “Thank you for giving me joy when I bought you” / “Thank you for teaching me what doesn’t suit me” much like the people we meet in life, each has a different role to play.  Free them from the prison, let them go with gratitude

Tidying by Category Works Like Magic

  • Clothes
    • Tops, Bottoms, Clothes, Socks, Underwear, Bags, Accessories, Clothes for specific events, Shoes.
  • Downgrading to “Loungewear” is taboo
    • Usually it’s not appropriate loungewear
    • Positive self-image at home is important too
  • Arranging Clothes
    • Rise to the right (heavy items on left, dark in color:  coats–>dresses–>jackets–>pants–>skirts–>blouses
    • Never ball up socks /store in shoebox
    • Seasonal clothes:  Divide into “Cotton-like” and “Wool-like” materials
  • Papers
  • Credit card statements / Warranties / Greeting Cards / Used checkbooks (get rid of) / Pay Slips
  •  Komono (Miscellaneous)
  • Bath/Sink
    • Keep soap and shampoo products out of shower to avoid slime
    • Keep sponge completely dry and underneath sink or hang outside on veranda
  • “When we delve into the reasons why we can’t let something go, there are only two:  an attachment to the past or a fear for the future” (181).
    • 3 approaches:  face now, face sometime, avoid until we die.  Choice is ours.
      • FACE NOW!!
    • Not needing to search is a stress reliever
  • DETOX!!  Living space affects your body 😀
    • Feng Shui:
      • Yin + Yang
      • Five Elements:  metal, wood, water, fire, earth energy.